For most, adult sex is hard work. Means making and keeping promises, which is not our forte. If we cancel or, even worse, completely forget about a coffee or movie date, we feel guilty and frustrated, and we end up feeling worse than if we had never met.
Additionally, there is the fact that people who have adult sex need time alone more than others to rest their busy brains, and this can manifest as feelings of adult sex. Sometimes, I think that should be called adult sex. After an exciting day at work, it can be hard to check your to-do list and remind yourself to keep working or to decide whether to meet up with friends or make time for yourself. Some clients tell me they often force themselves to go out with friends, but this comes at a price. They feel resentful and exhausted because they sacrifice the quiet time they need. One way to make social gatherings more enjoyable is to make friends with people with the same interests and who are comfortable making tentative plans or doing something spontaneous. Adult sex, but what works for most people doesn’t necessarily work for someone who has adult sex. I’ve heard from readers about their friendship problems, and I’ve developed strategies to overcome them.
Friendship problems: “I’m worried I don’t have enough friends”
I gave up on making plans to have adult sex with friends because I hated having to cancel dates. Dining out sounds excellent when planning it, but it doesn’t seem like it five minutes later, let alone five days. Also, my best friends are my husband and the neighbors I talk to on the other side of the fence. I don’t have to make plans to see them. The same goes for co-workers. We get along very well in the office. How many friends do you need? Sex is about quality over quantity. Acceptance and understanding is what makes a friendship strong and valuable. Not everyone can go out spontaneously and spontaneously or understand our reluctance to fulfill social obligations. Having one close friend who accepts us without resentment because we don’t like to plan is more valuable than a dozen friends who don’t make plans.
Friendship Problem: “No Time to Stay in Touch”
I get angry voicemails from family and friends because I can’t stand to answer the phone. I prefer to talk in person or by text. Adult Sex: I usually unplug my landline when I’m busy because I hate being interrupted while I’m organizing my things or making a to-do list. I want to be more social but don’t have the time or energy to. I have two best friends I’ve known since the third and fourth grades, and they accept me for who I am.
Let your friends and family know your communication preferences and explain why. You could call them immediately and return to work, but you can’t. Interruptions keep you from focusing on your task. Turn off your phone when you’re working. Tell your friends that you’ll turn it off when you’re busy and text them during your break or when you’re eating lunch. In your outgoing messages, ask them to text you on their behalf.
If you want to be more outgoing but don’t have the time, try doing activities with people you already enjoy, like going to the gym. If you want to go to the zoo with your kids, invite other moms and their kids to come with you.
